My Raised Teenager Son and Daughters.

July 7th, 2009 by mohamadminhat

My raised teenager son and daughters (Are you proud to be their parents so far?).

 

My wife and I have two sons and two daughters so far (yang sudah siap lah) and to raise; to look after them may need a skill of parenting rehearsal and dress/drill for life to make them the good living things on earth.

I don’t say my missus and I am the best parent but please keep reading on this article which will let you explore the need of teenagers and the confusion that they possess i.e. my kids in particular. As a matter of fact, teens need us (as their parent) to be just as closely involved at 15 as we were at five. You got it? You are responsible for loving your kids; but sadly the kids mostly need our love the most when they are at their horrible. As a parent we have to set and keep clearly defined boundaries.

 

Wisdom

I am looking at my teen kids and observed that they need to own ‘wisdom’ for themselves. It means we need to be more coach than as a commander. A good coach works to get the family members real part of the team and shapes the team to be a winner. The coach shall know his team to be worked with, do not criticize and brought down any negatives comments.

Don’t lecture them (for the next 45 minutes or one period of slot); help them make a plan to set any opportunities. I consider my teens are young adult. Normally I don’t give commands, I give them strategies. In New Zealand, my teen kids live in a defective culture which inspires selfishness and individualism.

“Umi, Umi, Umi”! My 12 year old daughter yelled.”My teacher said SEX is the most fun you can have without laughing!”

“When did she tell you that?” asked Umi.

“Emmm….I read it in her book,” my kid replied.

See? The privatization of conscience robs teenagers of a sense of community. It empties my kids’ emotional tank. For that emotional tank to be filled, they need attention.

One day they will ask us, “Can I Love? Can I be loved?’ For your information, girls give sex to get love but boys give love to get sex.

 

Dreams or Goals?

Often my wife and I am one soft parent and one tougher parent, depend on a situation. The simple principle for me is that whoever deals with my teen issue first, stays with it. The other parent does not (please do this) interfere or contradict.

I try my best to give my teen kids dreams and goals as there are the important part of the mix.

“You can live 10 days without food, 8 minutes without O2, but you can’t live 1 second without hope.”

Sikit hari lagi Tayar Belakang akan potong Tayar Depan.

I treat my teen kids as friends and for friend, “is the person who knows all about you, and still likes you.” Sometimes my kids responded to me, “Show Off, Dad” but they still believe me when I proved them with my old funny pictures and participate any outdoor activities with them, even though my fitness is not up to the standard but to the least my kids will start to have a second thought of me as they always say that I am showing off.

You know wire men? (Do you know what I mean?).

 

ahlifikirnegara: …zuriatina qurrota a’yun wa ja’alana minal/lil muttaqina imama.
It doesn’t matter in what languages; Kids copy what an adult does